Convert that Turndown to a Network Opportunity

I did something today I really wasn't looking forward to.  I met with someone who had chosen the other person rather than me.  While the turn down was supportive and the feedback was positive, it was still a turn down and it still cut into my self-esteem.  I counsel others to view a rejections as a networking opportunity, especially when they come close to the finish line.  When you know you're a top contender, you also know there are folks at the hiring company who were impressed with your skills and experience.  These same folks might feel bad about not being able to offer you the position and would most likely agree to see you in order to provide feedback and guidance.  In an effort to follow my own advice, I scheduled an appointment with the manager who didn't hire me. Going back in was something I knew I should do, but the desire to do this was right up there next to having a tooth pulled!

As I've said so many times before in other posts, you just never know what will happen when you walk into one of these network meetings.  In this case, it was just terrific.  I went in to get advice about what I can do to strengthen my candidacy next time a similar position opens up.  I walked out feeling confident that the volunteer work I'm doing will help establish my credentials working with undergraduates, experience I know is missing on my current resume.  I also walked out with network connections at three other universities and some ideas about alternative avenues to explore.  The interview I'd been on for the position I didn't get was with seven people.  Meeting one-on-one to network with the hiring manager gave me the opportunity to better establish myself and build rapport with someone who will likely be in the position to hire someone in the future.

So, all in all, I did what I was supposed to do and, in this case, got more than I expected.  You simply never know where these network meetings will take you.  Next time you come in second, remember to reframe the turn down as a networking opportunity.